The LGBT community can celebrate. The state of New York has legalized marriages for partners of the same sex. Congratulations to them. It must have been something they wanted intensely to fight for it so many years. Congratulations to those who have done things to make it happen.
Congratulations to anyone who enrages over it, as well, for sticking to age old principles. Congrats to everyone.
Now, pause and think of what comes. Increased number of hate crimes. Intensified discourse on the value of marriage and family. Religious groups coming in the spotlight, politicians making a stand for or against to leverage votes. And not just in the US.
The Roman Catholic Church already expressed itself, through various representatives, saying how people forgot the value of marriage. Newsflash, fathers! That was a value forgot long ago.
It was first forgotten when love ceased to be the main reason for it. It was forgotten every time two people got married to form a political or financial alliance. Then it was forgotten again, by every man and woman who, instead of loving each other and taking care of each other, started beating, yelling at, cheating on, killing the other. And it is diminished every time someone other than the persons getting married has something to say for or against it.
“Marriage is the way families form. What kind of families will be these, based on gay marriages?”, they’ll say.
Look around you. What kind of families are those where the man leaves his children and a pregnant, unemployed housewife for a “tuned up” secretary? Or better yet, how do you feel about a family where the father doesn’t leave his wife and kids, but turns them into punching bags? Or where the wife is addicted to alcohol and other intoxicants, neglecting her children and husband. Are they better? No. And if you think about it, how many marriages are actually “until death do us part”? Fewer and fewer…Because the value of marriage is given by the people in it. And THAT, holy and unholy fathers, is what we (and you) lack. HUMAN VALUE.
I guess, by now, you realize what my position is on marriage. Marriage is a stupid, artificial concept. The value is not in the marriage contract. It is in the mutual feelings of love, respect, loyalty. There are many broken up families out there who have more love and respect than unbroken ones. Those can exist with or without a marriage. Those men and women who have been married a long time make jokes about it – stuff like “romance died when I said <I do>”. Others, unmarried, love, care about one another and respect the other. And what is a marriage contract in society? It is the thing that tells the bank: Hey, this dude can pay for that dudette’s credit card debt.
From a religious point of view, it’s supposed to be something more meaningful. “In the eyes of God…” and all that. But men, women and the societies they live in are far from holy. They’ve always been far from holy.
Why do we even need this concept? As long as love is there, the existence of marriage is irrelevant. It is a social and religious ritual, which could be cheaper or more meaningful if done in the woods or on the beach by a couple exchanging vows. It serves to empower clerics and state officials to give permission for two people to copulate with the blessing of the Law of Man and, maybe with the help of other “churches”, the Law of God. That’s it.
So, I am glad for the LGBT community worldwide. Really. But just because they managed to obtain something they wanted, something that was met with considerable resistance. The victory in itself is not really a victory. It was a victory when they stopped throwing you in jails for choosing to live a differently. But now, you just gave some people who have no right to interfere, the right to say: “Yes, you are allowed”. Did you really need that? I doubt it. Did you need to give those that already hated you a reason to hate you more? I doubt it.
Anyway, whatever… For me, the legalization of gay marriages is just another opportunity to observe the stupidity of humanity. In a world with children dropping dead like flies from hunger and perfectly treatable diseases, you chose to fight for the opportunity of having your intimate relations approved by a God that doesn’t give a rat’s ass and by people you will never see in your life again after marriage, giving the oh-so-holy Church another excuse not to spend the trillions they sit on for meaningful stuff, but instead focusing on the “value of marriage”.
Now, all the people who don’t agree with your life style, will drink beer and enrage over the fact that you are allowed to do by law and God what you’ve been doing for centuries anyway. And they’ll be so passionate (stupidity never lacks passion, really) that they will forget about the wars and hunger, the shitty economy…. Oh wait! The tits of some “star” had more of their attention anyway.
Funny how people find it appropriate to care about what others do in their bedroom, but still throw trash on the sidewalk, spend money of stuff made in sweat shops, send their children to war, and overall get involved in pure meaningless shit at the same time with not knowing where their liver is.
That is our value. That is the value we carry into everything we do and create. That is the essence of our world. Passionate stupidity applied to utter crap.
